I am reading the most amazing book, The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown. The other night, in the middle of a chapter talking about learning to accept myself for who I am and not who I think I should be, I sent myself an email saying “Blog about ‘as is.'” You’ve seen that, right, on a used car? “As is.” Those words always make me wonder what’s hidden behind that disclaimer.
But, when it comes to ourselves, we need to realize that we’ve been created to be just who we are. Each of us is unique; each is special. The world blares messages at us all day every day telling us that we need to eat this food or do this exercise or try this pill and we’ll be dancing off into the horizon on the beach. Women are told this hair color or that dress and this make-up trick will make you the cat’s meow.
But for a minute stop thinking of all the things that you’d change if you could, all the things that you wish were different. I want to try an experiment.
Breathe in deeply and say to yourself “I love you” or “You’re great!”
Think of all of the things you’ve done today — forget about anything that remains undone for a second — and just breathe in the fact that you are alive and capable.
Think of one thing you’re grateful for today.
What about another?
And a third?
Now, tell yourself — out loud if you can get away with it! — one thing that you love about yourself. Really focus in on identifying something good about yourself and telling yourself about it. Believe it.
I plan to make this one-minute self-care talk part of my daily routine.
I invite you to join me. As our quote from today says, “Every thought we think is creating our future.” Why not make it a future where we appreciate who we are?
How do you practice self-care? Do you have a favorite pep talk you give yourself — a way to turn around your thinking when you start to feel blue? Feel free to share it with us in the comments below.