Last week was a stressful week full of small annoyances and petty grievances along with a healthy dose of anxiety. Put all those in a big pot and stir them together with a dash of PMS and you have the makings of one unhappy stew of emotions. I made a few mountains out of molehills and by the end of the week I was tired from climbing them.
Being Positive Can Be Hard Work!
If it’s one thing I’ve learned from my own journey towards greater positivity it’s that it is easy to have relapses into negativity. I have them all the time! It’s easy to be positive when things are going your way, but quite another to keep up that optimism when life’s inevitable little irritations arise and even harder when life hits you with a major setback. This is when I have to really work at being positive. The more I practice, the easier it gets. But for me, positivity will always be something I have to consciously work at.
So, after my week was over and thankfully the weekend arrived, I had some time to reflect back on the past few days and my reactions to what had occurred. To be quite honest, I was pretty ashamed of my thoughts. I realized I had been very judgmental of others and probably over reacted (OK, definitely!!!) to certain situations giving them way more weight than they deserved.
Hindsight is a wonderful thing because it allows us to look at events with a fresh eye after the smoke has cleared and analyze what we could have done differently. In this case, I had gotten myself all worked up over a minor matter and really let it get to me. I took my cues from the other person’s perspective instead of from my own and then tried to make myself feel better by being judgmental about the whole event. I stewed over it all week and made myself very unhappy.
I’m a Work In Progress
Afterwards, what made me the most upset was not the event itself, but the realization of how I had let myself fall into old patterns of behavior by not taking the time to try and find a better way to react to a negative situation. I had forgotten one of my favorite quotes, “change your thoughts and you change your world” and let my thoughts run rampant in a bad direction. A relapse for sure, but a learning opportunity and a stepping stone along the road to happiness. Learning to change my perception of events and being less judgmental of others would have made last week a much happier week. I’m still a work in progress, but just realizing I could have done better seems like a step in the right direction!
We are all on this happiness journey together and I hope sharing some of my day to day struggles with positivity and how I hope to overcome them will help someone in some way with their own struggle.
I would love to hear about a time when you realized you made a mountain out of a molehill like I did last week and what you did with that lesson moving forward. I’m hoping I will remember this post and react differently next time.
Contest Coming Soon!
This month with Valentine’s Day just two weeks away, we hope to talk about self-love, how important it is to our happiness, and how it affects the way we interact with others. We are thinking of having a contest this month so stay tuned for details!